Monday
Happy Birthday Dr. King
Today we honor the memory of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. I recognize that I, like many, am Living "The Dream" daily as I watch my bi-racial son grow in a world where he will be afforded opportunities that were not granted to those that came before him. My 93 year old grandmother relives those moments through the images on tv and I stand proud that so many have sacrificed so that we can have. We must do better as a people to move closer to the dream that Dr. King gave his life in support of. How do you live "The Dream"?
Thursday
Transparency: The gray side of marriage
If you follow me (@poshevents)on twitter late last night I tweeted that today would be the day I did a transparency post. My assistant Jenelle (@jenellethemodel) does transparency tweets all the time and I've always admired her courage to be totally exposed in her testimony. I've had an issue lying on my heart for quite sometime now and figured the blog is my ultimate medium, and I really miss blogging, so what better place and what better time?
In this industry we are often flooded with the ideal picture of love. What it is and what it should be. Society will tell you that if you are not married by xxx age, you are flawed, and when you do get married you live the perfect life, swept away by a prince and go off together into happily ever after land.
The reality is that this may not be the case.
As a newlywed I can honestly say the first year of marriage was quite the challenge. I love my husband and undeniably he loves me, however, I don't know if we were ever prepared for the road that would follow shortly after the "I dos". During the first year I must have answered to "how's married life" a million times, but never knowing exactly what to say. Do you say "challenging at times" or is perfect with a smile the only acceptable answer to give?
I do this for a living. How could I, Wedding planner, educated with three degrees, met my Mr. charming, married in my fantasy wedding, not say perfect? After all, I love my husband and he loves me.
The period of engagement is quite the fantasy. Everyone is so supportive of your love and your upcoming celebration that often times it is easy to lose sight of the purpose. The relationship. The bond. The legally binding, split everything in half, through thick and thin, bond...and all of a sudden the lights have faded on your ceremony and you wake up in your reality.
It's not always easy.
It's been laying so heavily on my heart to say the things that society is afraid to say. You may NOT live in a honeymoon phase for the first 5 years, or maybe not even the first 5 months. Your marriage will face challenges. You will hit speed bumps and road blocks just like any other relationship. You may even potentially face a problem that appears to be bigger than you, that will test your faith and your commitment. You may NOT want to be bothered sometimes. You may NOT be able to perform as the perfect husband or perfect wife and may not always know all of the answers. You WILL be disappointed in your spouse at times. It's reality and it's a reality that unfortunately no one ever speaks of so when you find yourself in the situation you feel abandoned, alone and dare I say it regretting your decision.
I've been there so I know it happens.
And it's perfectly OK.
What I've learned about "marriage", the institution, is that it withstands challenges, it is forgiving and it does overcome.
I married my better half a little over a year ago and what we've learned as a couple is that the formula for a great marriage is communication, dedication and faith, not perfection. Everything in life is not always as it seems nor is it always black and white. Somethings in life just stay in the gray.
In this industry we are often flooded with the ideal picture of love. What it is and what it should be. Society will tell you that if you are not married by xxx age, you are flawed, and when you do get married you live the perfect life, swept away by a prince and go off together into happily ever after land.
The reality is that this may not be the case.
As a newlywed I can honestly say the first year of marriage was quite the challenge. I love my husband and undeniably he loves me, however, I don't know if we were ever prepared for the road that would follow shortly after the "I dos". During the first year I must have answered to "how's married life" a million times, but never knowing exactly what to say. Do you say "challenging at times" or is perfect with a smile the only acceptable answer to give?
I do this for a living. How could I, Wedding planner, educated with three degrees, met my Mr. charming, married in my fantasy wedding, not say perfect? After all, I love my husband and he loves me.
The period of engagement is quite the fantasy. Everyone is so supportive of your love and your upcoming celebration that often times it is easy to lose sight of the purpose. The relationship. The bond. The legally binding, split everything in half, through thick and thin, bond...and all of a sudden the lights have faded on your ceremony and you wake up in your reality.
It's not always easy.
It's been laying so heavily on my heart to say the things that society is afraid to say. You may NOT live in a honeymoon phase for the first 5 years, or maybe not even the first 5 months. Your marriage will face challenges. You will hit speed bumps and road blocks just like any other relationship. You may even potentially face a problem that appears to be bigger than you, that will test your faith and your commitment. You may NOT want to be bothered sometimes. You may NOT be able to perform as the perfect husband or perfect wife and may not always know all of the answers. You WILL be disappointed in your spouse at times. It's reality and it's a reality that unfortunately no one ever speaks of so when you find yourself in the situation you feel abandoned, alone and dare I say it regretting your decision.
I've been there so I know it happens.
And it's perfectly OK.
What I've learned about "marriage", the institution, is that it withstands challenges, it is forgiving and it does overcome.
I married my better half a little over a year ago and what we've learned as a couple is that the formula for a great marriage is communication, dedication and faith, not perfection. Everything in life is not always as it seems nor is it always black and white. Somethings in life just stay in the gray.
Tuesday
Sage Speaks: Can I Ask You a Favor?
Just like so many other things, there are about a million choices when choosing your wedding favors. Sometimes it may even seem like there are too many choices! But if you focus in on one particular aspect of your wedding (or other event), it should be easier to choose the favors, as well as other things.
For example, try focusing in on colors or the season-fall is just around the corner! Take inspiration from famous fall colors-those deep reds and beautiful oranges can spice up any event. How about this-instead of a regular margarita, try using a pumpkin liquor and trimming the edge of the glass with brown sugar instead of salt! Here are some fantastic fall favors that just might find themselves at your next event!
Caramel corn-a tasty treat that your guests can enjoy!
Leaf bottle opener-a practical favor, and something your friends can actually use!
Personalized fall leaf petals-write something so your favorite people can remember your event!
Happy planning!
For example, try focusing in on colors or the season-fall is just around the corner! Take inspiration from famous fall colors-those deep reds and beautiful oranges can spice up any event. How about this-instead of a regular margarita, try using a pumpkin liquor and trimming the edge of the glass with brown sugar instead of salt! Here are some fantastic fall favors that just might find themselves at your next event!
Caramel corn-a tasty treat that your guests can enjoy!
Leaf bottle opener-a practical favor, and something your friends can actually use!
Personalized fall leaf petals-write something so your favorite people can remember your event!
Happy planning!
Sage Speaks: Forget White-Go Green!
More and more people are “going green.” They’re changing from plastic water bottles to reusable bottles, getting shorter showers, driving hybrid cars, and cutting back on their paper use. Being environmentally friendly for a wedding isn’t always the first thing on the bride’s mind, however there are quite a few things that you can do to make your wedding enviro-chic. Instead of cut flowers for a centerpiece, you could have small trees or plants that your guests can take home and plant. Don’t like that idea? Try to buy locally-grown, or organic flowers. Instead of throwing rice or blowing bubbles, give your guests seeds to throw-birds will eat them and they will eventually turn into beautiful landscaping. Plus, there’s always the literal idea of a green theme (green colors), or have your event outdoors, surrounded by nature!
How else can you incorporate environmental friendliness in your wedding, without losing style? Here are a few tips:
• Minimize the amount of driving your guests will need to do
• Donate leftover food rather than tossing it out
• Don’t register for things you don’t need; give your guests the option of making a donation to a cause close to your heart
So to end today’s post, I would like to close with a quote…
“Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.”
-Khalil Gibran
How else can you incorporate environmental friendliness in your wedding, without losing style? Here are a few tips:
• Minimize the amount of driving your guests will need to do
• Donate leftover food rather than tossing it out
• Don’t register for things you don’t need; give your guests the option of making a donation to a cause close to your heart
So to end today’s post, I would like to close with a quote…
“Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.”
-Khalil Gibran
Thursday
Introducing: Sage
Over the last 4 years we've been blessed with some really great interns at POSH. This year we are so thankful for yet another wonderful addition.
From our very first conversation, I could tell that Sage was very special. Eager, fresh and such a great spirit. You know the kind of person that walks into a room like a total ray of sunshine? That's our Sage!
So, without further ado Internet meet Sage...
My Own Dream Come True
My name is Sage, and I am the newest intern at POSH Events, and I am thrilled to be here! I am a high school senior looking forward to the excitement and adventures that come with the last year of high school. I also coach elementary school girls softball, ride horses, and am in several community service clubs at my school. I feel extremely fortunate to have this amazing opportunity at POSH Events to get some behind-the-scenes knowledge of a job that makes people’s dream events come true.
Since 7th grade, I have known that I wanted to be an event planner. I have always been the one in my family planning everything from activities to our pet’s birthday parties. I have even helped my friends plan several small events. The rush that comes from making someone happy by giving them the exact event that they dreamed of is amazing. I am beyond meticulous with everything that I do. My life is color-coded, highlighted, and sticky noted to the point of obsessive-but it’s how things get done efficiently, which is why the only career suited for my organizational and planning skills is event planning.
The only problem was that I couldn’t find anyone willing to take me on as an intern-until I was referred to Isis, who completely saved my senior year of high school.
Without Isis and POSH Events, I wouldn’t be able to get the real-world experience that a person really needs in order to succeed. So I have POSH to thank for making my own dream come true, and I look forward to helping you make your dream event come true, as well!
Sage, we are so happy to have you as part of our "crazy, busy, rewarding, wouldn't change it for anything in the world" lives!
xoxoxo
From our very first conversation, I could tell that Sage was very special. Eager, fresh and such a great spirit. You know the kind of person that walks into a room like a total ray of sunshine? That's our Sage!
So, without further ado Internet meet Sage...
My Own Dream Come True
My name is Sage, and I am the newest intern at POSH Events, and I am thrilled to be here! I am a high school senior looking forward to the excitement and adventures that come with the last year of high school. I also coach elementary school girls softball, ride horses, and am in several community service clubs at my school. I feel extremely fortunate to have this amazing opportunity at POSH Events to get some behind-the-scenes knowledge of a job that makes people’s dream events come true.
Since 7th grade, I have known that I wanted to be an event planner. I have always been the one in my family planning everything from activities to our pet’s birthday parties. I have even helped my friends plan several small events. The rush that comes from making someone happy by giving them the exact event that they dreamed of is amazing. I am beyond meticulous with everything that I do. My life is color-coded, highlighted, and sticky noted to the point of obsessive-but it’s how things get done efficiently, which is why the only career suited for my organizational and planning skills is event planning.
The only problem was that I couldn’t find anyone willing to take me on as an intern-until I was referred to Isis, who completely saved my senior year of high school.
Without Isis and POSH Events, I wouldn’t be able to get the real-world experience that a person really needs in order to succeed. So I have POSH to thank for making my own dream come true, and I look forward to helping you make your dream event come true, as well!
Sage, we are so happy to have you as part of our "crazy, busy, rewarding, wouldn't change it for anything in the world" lives!
xoxoxo
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